Casual Sex is a Con
Ran across another very interesting article (amazing what happens when you catch up on blogs), this one called Casual Sex is a Con, by Dawn Eden. Here's a snippet:
But in a wider sense, losing my virginity, far from being the demarcation between past and future, was just a blip on the continuum of my sexual degradation. The decline had begun when I first sought sexual pleasure for its own sake.
Our culture — both in the media via programmes such as Sex and the City and in everyday interactions — relentlessly puts forth the idea that lust is a way station on the road to love. It isn’t. It left me with a brittle facade incapable of real intimacy. Occasionally a man would tell me I appeared hard, which surprised me as I thought I was so vulnerable. In truth, underneath my attempts to appear bubbly, I was hard — it was the only way I could cope with what I was doing to my self and my body.
The misguided, hedonistic philosophy which urges young women into this kind of behaviour harms both men and women; but it is particularly damaging to women, as it pressures them to subvert their deepest emotional desires. The champions of the sexual revolution are cynical. They know in their tin hearts that casual sex doesn’t make women happy. That’s why they feel the need continually to promote it.
(click here to read the whole thing)
Reminds me a lot of some of the things Lauren Winner has been saying (quick links).
It also raises a question I'd like to sincerely ask any gays/lesbians who might stumble across this blog - is it just me, or is the gay community obsessed with sex? I ask this because I want to better understand the homosexual community here in Missoula - what are there hopes and dreams, fears and desires, what it might look like for a church to actually serve them well? And so I've been reading their newspapers, seeking to talk w/ folks who know that scene, etc. And it just seems to be much more prominent than in non-gay publications, conversations, etc.
This might simply be my own naivete; these same elements are certainly present in the heterosexual scene (albeit in a more under-the-surface, taken-for-granted kind of way) - so please don't mistake this for a homophobic slam. I'm just curious if this is indeed a contour of the gay culture, or whether its merely a reflection something indemic to western civilization as a whole. Would be interested in your thoughts on this...